Look, it occurs to me that I have a lot of negative personal blog posts here that contain drama between myself and other bloggers. I understand that’s not what most of you come here to read (and then there’s those of you who only come here to read those posts).
I’m not a vindictive person, but I am a guy who will defend myself and others I feel need defending. Here’s a tip on not getting “featured” on this blog in that manner:
If you have a problem with me, send me an email or some other method of private communication. If you call me out on FriendFeed, Twitter, your blog or any other place where hundreds or thousands of folks are likely to read it, I have to respond. If I’m in the wrong, I might own up to it, but chances are you’ve really exacerbated the problem by bringing the world in on the issue.
I admit to being wrong several times a day. It usually happens over IM or e-mail. When I’ve hurt someone’s feelings legitimately and they’ve come to me over it, I apologize. When someone decides to instead to stand up on a soapbox and talk about me or my friends negatively, I get on my soapbox, too.
I try to keep personal issues like this out of my professional work (though occasionally it’ll seep in). This is the place where they end up. I apologize if that bothers some of my readers (and no, I haven’t had many emails on the topic, it just seems to me that it isn’t particularly entertaining reading for everyone).
One thing that it does fit very well here thematically is that this is a very honest place, my blog. I try to unmask stuff here, whether it’s secrets I’ve learned, explaining topics I’m an expert on, or using frank talk to discuss accusations leveled against me or my friends.
If you want to broaden up this issue to something applicable to your life, instead of just mine, consider it a lesson in PR. Robert Scoble, this weekend, has been featured on this blog in a most unflattering manner. This is because he decided to level some ungrounded accusations against the place where I work, impuning our ability to write (followed by several threads on FriendFeed trying to get a mob of folks to pile on to his accusations).
I suppose if he was truly offended by offended by how we cover stuff, or if he had some constructive criticism, he could have done that privately – we’re all easy to get a hold of on the Mashable editorial staff. He didn’t, and he thus opened himself up for having his behavior exposed on a much wider scale.
That’s just an example, though. It’s pretty obvious stuff, and is generally common sense.
And yeah, I’ve pretty much always been this way. 🙂 Thanks to a server re-write last year, my old rizzn.com archives aren’t accessible anymore, but I did the same thing when I was an unknown blogger as I do now. Back then, though, getting called out and insulted in front of big audiences was something that happened a lot more rarely than it does these days.
[disclosure: all this mess is me speaking on my own. i’m not paid by the DEMO conference, Pete Cashmore, or any of my co-workers to care about my reputation and the reputation of where I work. i do that for free.]